Reigate relaxation Hour with HypnoBirthing teacher Leila Gardiner

Reigate

    Relaxation Hour with Hypnobirthing teacher Leila Gardiner;

    Come along and join us at this this small, informal relaxation workshop each month. These take place at the lovely Imogen’s Holistic centre,
    It is aimed at parents and pregnant couples.

    You will learn calming self-help skills comprising of breathing, visualization and self-hypnosis through this guided deep relaxation session.

    The cost just £12 per session.

    These monthly sessions are held on the last Sunday at 7.30pm of each month:
    * January 31st,
    * February 28th,
    * March 27th and so on.

    To book email … Leila.gardiner@gmail.com to pre-book your place. Or call on 07775425301

    Looking Forward to seeing you there.. Have a great weekend x

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Slinging the praises of carrying your baby

Charlotte Filcek

Slings and carriers are becoming more and more popular; why do so many parents love them?
Whether you are an expectant parent, have just had a baby, or have been thinking about using carriers with your little one for a while, this post will take you through the many benefits of carrying your baby in a sling.

Tiny babies expect to be carried

Newborn humans are surprisingly underdeveloped compared with other species. They can do nothing for themselves, cannot regulate their own body temperature, and require very frequent feeding. They therefore have a biologically-programmed expectation to be held close to their caregiver. This is the reason that so many tiny babies can go from fast asleep to indignant rage just by being placed in what you thought was a warm, snuggly moses basket! The first few months of a baby’s life see such an enormous amount of development that they are frequently described as the ‘fourth trimester of pregnancy’. You can help your baby through it by replicating the closeness, warmth and movement of the womb, making a sling an invaluable tool.

Babies who are carried cry less

As well as the general need for closeness during the fourth trimester, babies go through all sorts of things that can be soothed by carrying them close. Just as you are emerging from the fourth trimester, you hurtle headlong into the four-month sleep regression, and nothing seems to make your baby nap. Slings to the rescue! If your baby has colic you will hear an awful lot of crying, but slings can help comfort them. Babies with reflux (of the sicky or silent variety) can be helped enormously by being held upright, and a sling can save your arms from a lot of strain. In fact, research shows that babies who are carried for an extra 3 hours per day cry and fuss 43% less1. That’s a lot more blissful silence.

It’s so convenient

Life with a small child can be complicated. Getting chores done, feeding yourself and playing with an older child can be difficult when you’re trying to soothe a baby, or have finally soothed them but are left trapped on the sofa when they fall asleep on you. Slings can give you back the use of your arms. They are also a great alternative to buggies and prams in all sorts of situations. You will never have to fold them up to get on a bus or train. Little shops with narrow aisles are a breeze, and you can saunter up and down stairs and escalators rather than waiting for the lift or a helpful stranger to assist you in lugging buggy and child to where you need to go. When your little baby becomes a big baby and wants to walk with you, you will find an empty sling much easier to transport than an empty pushchair. In fact the only practical disadvantage that I can think of is that you have to carry your own stuff rather than rely on the buggy. You’ll have to do that eventually anyway, and it really is possible to travel light with a small child. Buggies can be helpful, but slings often more so.

It’s weight bearing exercise!

A well-fitting sling that holds your baby in an optimal position should not feel really heavy. It is adding weight to your body though, and when your only physical exercise consists of walking to the corner shop to buy nappies and biscuits, that’s a workout in my book! If you have the energy to actually get out for a walk at the weekend, that little extra weight will be building bone density and burning calories. In addition to all this, carrying your baby in an ergonomic position is a great way to help your body return to its pre-pregnancy state. It can tone your core muscles and doesn’t put too much strain on your pelvic floor, unlike pushing a buggy or carrying a car seat. It is much kinder on your back too. Remember though, if something hurts, the positioning is probably off. Don’t give up, get help (see below).

Babies who are carried can experience more interaction

Babies learn through interaction with their caregiver. Hearing your speech and watching your facial expressions is the best teaching your baby can receive. It is more useful stimulation than any baby gym can provide, with added cuddles. Slings can help you give them this interaction more often. Experts are beginning to warn of the disadvantages of prolonged time spent being carried in car seats or sitting in forward facing buggies, swings, and gyms, because it reduces these opportunities for interaction2.

There’s something for everyone

Every family has different requirements from their carrier. Whether you need something simple and quick to keep in the car to nip into the shops, something you can wear for hours while you walk the dog but which won’t drag in the mud when you take it off, or something you can use to carry either your newborn or your toddler, there is something out there for you. Stretchy wraps are wonderfully snug for tiny newborns and much easier to use than you’d expect. Buckle carriers are great for convenience and simplicity. Mei Tais can be shared easily between different-sized wearers and kids. Ring slings and pouches are a minimalist’s dream and pack up small. Woven wraps are the ultimate in versatility and can allow you to carry a pre-schooler comfortably, or your tiny baby if you prefer. The world is your slingy oyster, but don’t be daunted; there are heaps of resources out there to help you decide what you want.

A note on safety

Slings are very safe, but as with all things, you need to know how to use them correctly. The most important aspect of keeping small babies safe in slings is ensuring that they can breathe freely. This means making sure that they cannot slump in the sling and end up with their chin curled into their chest. Follow the TICKS guidelines and avoid any carrier which doesn’t allow you to achieve this safe position. Bag slings (pictured) are an example of a sling which is never safe with a small baby.


Find out more…

There is a wealth of information and support available online to help you choose and use slings. Sling Guide is a fantastic online resource where you can learn more about different types of carrier and where you can buy them from. There are also plenty of online forums on Facebook and at TheBabywearer (a US site) and Natural Mamas, devoted to discussing the choosing and using of slings.
If you’re more of a book person, ‘Babywearing: The Benefits and Beauty of This Ancient Tradition’ by Maria Blois is an in depth guide to the benefits of carrying your baby.
Probably the best way you can learn about the different types of sling available, and what might best suit your needs, is to visit a Sling Meet. There you will find other parents willing to share their experiences, and often a qualified person who can offer some free help there or book you in for a more detailed consultation. If there is a Sling Library attached, you can even try out a sling before you buy. There is a map here which you can use to locate your nearest.

Charlotte Filcek is a trainee Babywearing Consultant. Email her

She also runs Redhill, Reigate and Horley NCT Sling Library. http://www.facebook.com/NCTRedhillReigateAndHorleySlingLibrary

References:
Hunziker & Barr. Increased carrying reduces infant crying: a randomized controlled trial. Pediatrics1986 May;77(5):641-8.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/10693168/Leaving-infants-in-buggies-may-cause-long-term-harm.html

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The Book Bump – Guest Blog – By Author and local mum Kerry Fisher

If you’re reading this blog, the chances are you are expecting a baby or you’ve just had one. It’s a while ago since my own babies were born – I now have teenagers. However, I still remember the initial buzz of being pregnant, then the slog through the middle bit when it felt like forever, then the countdown to D-day. This year though, I’ve given birth to a different sort of baby – my debut novel – but the process has felt a little similar.

I remember proudly announcing that ‘I was going to write a novel’. Which, of course, led to much leaping into the undergrowth and diving into shops every time I saw the words ‘Are you published yet?’ shaping on anyone’s lips. Then there was the (very) long bit in the middle when the novel was done but not going anywhere – it reminded me of my daughter hanging on in there for ten days beyond her due date. Without an agent, it’s almost impossible to get published and over a five-year period, I had enough rejections to paper an entire nursery. Eventually the glorious day arrived when The School Gate Survival Guide burst out into the world last August. I managed to get an agent and a two-book deal with HarperCollins on the same day…a bit like unexpectedly giving birth to twins!

And then came the part that most closely resembles having a baby – once it’s out in the world, it’s a free-for-all for everyone to chime in with their opinions…

It could be that you don’t want to hear your friend/mother-in-law/auntie’s advice on how you get your baby to sleep through the night or eat puréed sweet potato but actually, I love hearing what readers think of my novel – so if you do read my funny story about school gate snobbery – let me know your verdict. You can read some free chapters here: http://bit.ly/SchoolGate – or the whole thing for just 99p! (And it’s great preparation for when that little bundle does start school, though actually, I’ve made some wonderful friends at the school gates – just borrowed and exaggerated the occasional trait I’ve noticed…)

TheSchoolGate

Other authors who’ve given ‘birth’ to their first novels in the past year include:
The Lie of You: Jane Lythell – a brilliant psychological thriller
The Atlas of Us: Tracy Buchanan – emotional summer read
The Wake: Anna Hope – a moving story about the immediate aftermath of the First World War.

And she’s not a debut author but for something lighthearted and fun, try Take Mum Out by Fiona Gibson

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Lucy Williams Ambassador for Tropic plant skincare and make up

My name is Lucy Williams, I am an ambassador for Tropic Pure Plant Skincare, a skincare and make up range that is handmade using natural ingredients. The products and company were created by Susan Ma, a finalist on ‘The Apprentice’ in 2011, Lord Alan Sugar is part owner of the company.   

 

Our products are derived from 100% pure plant extracts, are honestly priced and are naturally effective on all skin types. We are committed to using only premium, natural ingredients that are rich in nutrients for your skin.

Our products are created with you in mind; they are fuss free and an absolute delight to use. We make our products by hand in small batches in our Surrey Beauty Workshop to ensure quality and freshness when it reaches you. They are fresh yet have a shelf life of 12 months. We are the first UK skincare company to list all of our ingredients in plain English. We have nothing to hide and it means you understand exactly what you are putting onto your skin.

 

We like to keep things simple and produce naturally pure and effective products. We never use mineral oils, Sodium Lauryl Sulphate (SLS – a foaming agent) , petrochemicals (chemical products derived from petroleum), parabens (a group of chemicals used as preservatives) or alcohol in any of our products as these ingredients can cause health problems and accelerate the skin’s ageing process.

Animal Testing – We never do it, and test only on ourselves. Tropic Skincare is certified by Cruelty Free International and you’ll see the Leaping Bunny on our packaging and website. Products bearing the Leaping Bunny mark are certified ‘cruelty free’ by Cruelty Free. We are Vegan Society Approved- we don’t believe in interfering with animals so we use no lanolin, gelatin or other animal derived products in our skin care range.

 

 

 

 

Our mission is to provide efficacy, excellence and integrity in all that we do. From our responsible business practices to our customer service, we will continue to aspire to be the best we possibly can for you and our environment.

 

How to order:

©     Have a look at the online catalogue on my Facebook page and send me a message on Facebook to order – see the links below.

©     Enjoy a 1-2-1 experience with a FREE facial!

©     Host a relaxing pamper party! You get 15% of fabulous FREEBIES to choose from, so, if your party is for example a total of £200, you get to choose £30 if it’s a £400 party, you get £60 and so on! Contact me via phone, email or Facebook to book!

 

Hosting a Pamper Party!

They are lots of fun and don’t have to cost you much! Just a few drinks and nibbles and Tropic products will do the rest! The size of your party doesn’t matter, just a small gathering for a tea party in the afternoon maybe or a few drinks for a larger gathering on an evening. The average party lasts about 2 hours, the hostess gets a beautifully relaxing facial and 15% of total sales to spend on Tropic products!

Copy and paste this link into Facebook to find my page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Tropic-Pure-Plant-Skin-Care-and-Make-Up-Lucy-Williams/1417508678494989?bookmark_t=page

http://www.flipsnack.com/769F7C6BDC9/fdnf698m
Have a look at our winter 2013 catalogue for all of the gorgeous Tropic products! When you receive your products they are guaranteed to have been freshly handmade in our Surrey workshop within the last 7 days!

 

The new Spring/Summer 2014 catalogue will be available on the 10th of March.

 

Contact

Email: lucyemma_2000@yahoo.com

Mobile: 07825752028

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HypnoBirthing classes in Surrey in March 2013

HypnoBirthing classes in Surrey in March 2013

In March 2013 three lovely first time couples attended the group hypnobirthing course in March 2013 Surrey

All three achieved a natural drug free birth.. for inspiration here are all three unique, yet positive experiences… as the proverb goes..
‘ Tell me a fact and I’ll learn. Tell me a truth and I’ll believe. But tell me a story and it will live in my heart forever ‘. ..

Yioda – First Time Hypnobirthing Mum from Guildford

Water birthed at Royal Surrey Hospital – Guildford Surrey

“Sorry it’s taken me a while to get back to you. Our baby was born on the 31st of May at 10:59. She was born in the water and I managed a completely natural birth thanks to hypnobirthing. The midwife said she had never seen anyone manage it before!

I can’t thank you enough for your brilliant classes, help and support. Hopefully I’ll be able to bring Elena to a coffee morning so you can meet her.”


Jessica – First Time Hypnobirthing Mum from Ashtead
Birthed at Epsom Hospital – Epsom Surrey

” Early evening on 8th June I started to feel the smallest of twinges every 15 minutes that I really didn’t feel were contractions.

Around 10.15pm my waters broke and I knew that as Meconium was in them that my chances of a desired water birth were gone. But I remained calm and focused as we started getting ready to travel to hospital. I suddenly realised that this was it that I was going to have our baby and the mixture of emotions still stays strongly in my mind – it was the most amazing feeling of excitement – I wasn’t scared I was ready to meet our baby.

We arrived about 11pm at hospital. They had wanted to bring on labour quicker with drugs due to concerns with the Meconium in the waters. Paul my husband was brilliant at being assertive and asking whether it was necessary and whether we could see how things progressed. The midwife talked to the doctors and they agreed to see how we got in.

And I’m so glad they did..

I was at 3cm dilation and within a few hours was at 9.5 cm dilated. I got through on just gas and air focussing on my breathing and working with my body to birth my baby. My husbands support throughout was amazing. At 5.50am on 9th June I gave birth to our beautiful daughter. It is still hard to describe how it felt to witness this little miracle that arrived into our world. I truly believe with the way hypno birthing helps you to work with your body and believe in yourself means it is possible to have the birthing experience you hoped for and to bring a calm and contented baby into the world.

Thanks Leila, 7 hours and with just gas and air still amazes me now.”

Fatima – First Time Hypnobirthing Mum from Redhill
Birthed at East Surrey Hospital Redhill Surrey

At around 4 pm on the 10th of July, I started experiencing some mild stomach cramps. Mum and I had to go to Sainsbury’s to pick up bananas for the banana walnut cake I was supposed to bake the next day. I noticed that I could barely walk with baby’s weight on my pelvis, and knew that he was coming very soon!. When we got back home and at around 6.30 I started experiencing much stronger cramping. It seemed slightly different to the usual period like cramping I was experiencing since the last couple of days.

The cramping got worse by around 9.30 and I started doing my calm breathing. I wanted to have a quick meal as I knew by now it was not false labour. I went for a bath as I remembered my midwife saying “If its labour, it will progress else it will settle down”. This was around 10 pm. The cramps didn’t settle and we decided to ring in and inform the hospital. After the bath I decided to get a quick nap. I continued with the calm breathing and slept in between contractions.

At around 3am I had the show and we called up the hospital and decided to go in and get assessed. The pain was more intense and now the contractions were 50 seconds apart and at more regular intervals. We took our bags, birth ball, and my pregnancy pillow and set out for the hospital. Shabbir, mum and myself. On reaching the maternity unit I was assessed by the midwife who checked how dilated I was. She said that the cervix was 4 cm dilated and that they were happy to take me in the hospital. However, checking baby’s heartbeat it was very high and they needed to give me saline to bring it back to normal. This meant I would have to be constantly monitored through the machine which threw all plans of my water birth out of the window.

I was shifted to the high risk ward and baby’s heartbeat was being monitored by the minute. I continued doing my breathing and started listening to the affirmations and rainbow relaxation in a loop. I felt the pain in my lower back quite intensely and understood baby was back to back. It was very uncomfortable sleeping on the bed as the pain was in my bottom. At 6 o’clock there was a change of midwife. The new midwife who came in was Claire and she seemed to have delivered hypno babies before. She gave me paracetamol for the pain and asked me if I was coping well. I decided against taking any method of pain relief. After an hour or so I started to feel acute pains in my lower back and lower bottom. However, I still remained calm by focussing on my breathing. I used my birthing ball and it really helped me get comfortable because I couldn’t lie flat on my back and it took the pressure off. The midwife was lovely and setup all the monitoring equipment for me so that I could use my birthing ball.

All throughout, I just kept reminding myself about what Leila said. To focus my breathing and thinking of positive imagery , counting backwards. The back to back labour was very painful yet nothing I couldn’t manage. Finally at around 7.30 or 8 am I felt a sudden gush and my waters had broken. Now the pain was unbearable for me and I started begging Claire for some pain relief. It was time for my next assessment and she said she would need to see how much further dilated I was and then decide whether she could offer it to me. After examination, she said I was already 10 cm dilated and that now it was time to push. Claire, the midwife was surprised at how well I had managed so far. I could feel baby’s head pushing into my back real hard. She said my waters had not broken completely so she had to break them to get things to progress. This was the most scary bit for me but all I was thinking about was baby being so close to coming. After breaking my waters she told me to push baby out. Shabbir and I insisted that we would like to breathe baby out. She helped me rest in a kneeling position on the bed handle so that gravity could help. For a few mins I tried to use “J breathing” to breathe him out but his head would go back in. I still remember Shabbir’s words “You have worked so hard for this moment, this is it baby, breathe him out”. Claire noticed baby’s heartbeat reduce a lot and said it was best if I pushed him out fast. I knew a tear would be inevitable now. I started pushing to the best I could. It took 4 pushes in all. The first 2 pushes and she could see baby’s head. Then I pushed with all my might and baby’s head was out. After that one big push and I could feel his shoulders and arms coming out. And then she gave him in my arms. Our little angel had arrived. Mum and Shabbir were crying. Adam Shabbir Mookhtiar was born on 11th July at 9.09 am. After that we did skin to skin and Shabbir cut the cord of the baby.

The perineal massage that Leila recommended really helped. Claire mentioned that the tear could have been a lot worse had I not done it.

Adam is a really chilled baby and I think it’s because I started doing the Hypnobirthing so early on in our pregnancy. Shabbir very proudly says that it’s because he’s a hypno baby that he’s so calm and content.

Leila, thank you so much for the wonderful sessions, and all the useful material you shared with us on a weekly basis. Even the refresher session was so helpful towards the end and made me confident enough to be able to go through anything with a calm mind. Considering baby was breach all throughout until week 36, I was very optimistic about him turning, thanks to the affirmations which I listened to, on my way to work daily, and kept doing the polar bear position you suggested. I think it must have been that along with the breathing I practised every night that helped in turning him around. I would definitely recommend you to any new mums who are scared of birthing and all the horror stories that we keep listening to associated with it. I don’t think I was scared at all after the course and especially the refresher session, but was looking forward to birthing as a Wonderful experience of bringing my baby into this world and into my arms. The video you showed of the calm water birth and baby sliding out is what I had visualised all throughout. Though I didn’t get the water birth I had hoped for, I think I coped very well, Inspite of a very painful back to back and I didn’t find the need for any pain relief until the last minute. It was the most empowering experience of my life!

P.S I took your advice and did the calm breathing in the initial days of breast feeding and it helped me get though the initial pain and challenges associated with it, with a lot more patience.”

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Mother Baby and Toddler Activities / Coffee mornings in the borough Reigate Banstead.

Mother Baby and Toddler Activities / Coffee mornings in the borough Reigate Banstead.

Locally libraries have weekly rhyme-time, that are free , and a great way to meet other mums. http://www.surreycc.gov.uk/sccwebsite/sccwspages.nsf/LookupWebPagesByTITLE_RTF/Rhymetime+locations?opendocument

Baby cafes, open weekly, to support breast-feeding mums, provide have tea and chat

http://www.thebabycafe.org/component/babycafe/?task=view&ID=118

The Red-oak children’s centre in Merstham
http://www.theredoak.org.uk/

Reigate and Earlswood Children’s Centre
http://www.steppingstones.childrencentre.org/autoimg/SS_Leaflet_27_9_11.pdf

Bespoke baby friendly hairdresser Val Hayllar – based in Fectcham, Val@hayllar.net

Dovers Green Children’s Centre
http://www.doversgreenchildrenscentre.co.uk/page/?title=Centre+Activities&pid=6

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What sort of Mother are you going to be?


“What sort of mother are you going to be?”
Written by Katrina Voysey local, experienced Psychotherapist and Couples Counsellor

It sounds strange now, but before I became a mother, it had not occurred to me that there was more than one way to be a mother. And I wasn’t expecting so many decisions – times when I’d ask myself “what do I do now?”

Its tempting, when faced with so much uncertainty to look for certainty – whether that’s the opinion of another person or an expert in a book or on a website. However if you can ride out the anxiety of not knowing, then ultimately the path of becoming a mother will be easier and more fulfilling.

Gradually you will start to notice patterns in how your baby responds to you and the wider world. Maybe your baby is easily startled, or hates baths, or seems to have no regularity to her sleep and feeding times or maybe your baby seems to enjoy more carrying and is regular in his sleep and feeding.

If you can try and read your particular baby rather than any particular book about babies, you will soon discover who your unique baby is and how better to care for him or her. Of course you will make mistakes, but that’s human and your baby only needs you to be good enough, not perfect.

Ultimately a deeper relationship of trust and knowing develops between you and your child. A strong relationship that will last beyond babyhood. Which is helpful as children never grow out of their capacity to surprise and worry their parents!

A very approachable book if you want to read more about how mothers come to know and respond to their babies is “What Mothers Do – especially when it looks like nothing” by Naomi Stadlen. It may satisfy any mother of a young baby who asks themselves “what do I do all day?” However if a stranger asks you, as a mother, what you do, the best summing up that I’ve come across is “I teach modern civilisation.”

When you think about how many different ways we can live our lives and intimate relationships, it would be pretty extraordinary if there were only one way to be a mother. If despite the frustrations and limitations, you can find the courage to trust your instincts, to experiment and to find the path that suits you and your child, then your experience will be much richer.

It is a great gift to give any child, to see and accept them as they are and to want to love and care for them in a way that meets their needs. The resources that you develop or call on to do that and the love your child returns can make that initial anxiety worthwhile.

Katrina Voysey is a local, experienced Psychotherapist and Couples Counsellor, registered with BACP. Clients with pre-crawling babies can (if they want) bring them into the parent’s therapy sessions.

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Share your views on East Surrey Hospital High risk unit – – Surrey and Sussex Healthcare Trust

The low risk birthing unit was opened earlier this year by Surrey and Sussex Healthcare Trust following a bid for funding supported by local women. We now want to ask the Trust to find the funding for similar improvements to the High Risk Consultant Led unit. The feedback to the Maternity Services Liaison Committee (MSLC) has been that women would like a more relaxing and homely environment, improvements to the ensuite bathrooms, similar decoration including wall murals and low level lighting. We have also found that women who are not classed as Low Risk but who want to use the birthing pool have concerns that there is only one birthing pool for high risk women and we would like to see another one. In order for the funding to be obtained we need to demonstrate that this is what women want. Could you please send out this email and link to this survey to as many women as possible who have had or are having babies locally to find out their views. We want to progress this quickly so only have a window of about a week to obtain these views.

Link to survey :_
https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/deliverysuiteenvironment

Please would you pass this email on to all your relevant contacts, share on Twitter and Facebook and ask that it is cascaded on to their friends and contacts as quickly as possible

Many thanks
Anne Fawcett
Lay Chair – Maternity Services Liaison Committee – Surrey and Sussex Healthcare Trust

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How to hold a Grief Ceremony – Dedicated to all those we have loved and lost

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Someone very much loved, in my life passed away…

. It was a sudden, and totally unexpected shock. It has been such a hard time, and holding a grief ceremony has helped with the grieving. Knowing and believing parts of people who touch our lives, always live on through, and with us. It is a wonderful blessing to have had such people in our lives. ..

But as the Poet Ferdowski says, in his book of Kings..

” We’ve reached the end of this great history,

And all the land will fill with talk of me.

I shall not die, these seeds I’ve sown will save

My name and reputation from the grave,

And men of sense and wisdom will proclaim,

When I have gone my praises and my name.”



Why hold a grief ceremony…

When people we love pass… it’s essential to allow time to grieve…
Whatever one’s belief about what happens to the human individual
After living… there has been a sudden change in our emotional
Landscape . . This can require some … profound Acknowledgment and adjustment. …

* WHY HOLD A GREIF CEREMONY * ….

A Grief Ceremony can help us process,….. and mourn a loss.
By creating a ritual to say goodbye….. allows us ….to acknowledge the loss
and emotionally release….. The most powerful ceremonies will always be
the ones we create …….because they will be more meaningful to us.

• HOW TO HOLD A GRIEF CEREMONY * …

The ceremony can be alone or with or a close friend or family.

Following suggestions can assist you in creating a simple yet Meaningful ritual way for saying goodbye.

* Gathering any objects that remind us of then. These can be items such or photos, cards from, gifts, a symbolic object , or a balloon.

*Write a letter to your loved one. In the letter you may write about what their life meant to you, how you feel about the loss, why you are
doing this ceremony and saying goodbye. Or you may prefer to find a
poem or a story, which you would like to read at the ceremony.

* Find a special place to do your ceremony. You may choose to do it in
your garden, at home, near a river, or by the sea.

-Prepare the space. You could decorate it, light candles, place
flowers, and create a comfortable place to sit.
*Take some time to sit in silence, to relax and focus your intention.
* When you are ready to read the letter, poem or story out loud. or say a special prayer
Say any words, which are meaningful for you.

* Allow as much time as you need to say goodbye.

* Find a symbolic ritual to say goodbye. You may want to release a
Balloon, or bury the item or letter or other.

* Find a symbolic ritual to give thanks. You may like to plant a flower or
Sprinkle some seeds.

This is an opportunity for you to give thanks and acknowledge the
Value and meaning your loved one brought to your life.

– Close the ceremony. –

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Fertile Body Method in Reigate. .. What is The Fertile Body Method?

The Fertile Body Method is a mind body approach to fertility which acknowledges the importance of working with fertility problems in a holistic way.

Hypnosis is potentially a very powerful and effective therapeutic tool and is used in many of the techniques and approaches suggested in the Fertile Body Method.

Hypnosis is a trance state induced through focusing attention on any current internal or external sensory experience; hypnotherapy is the art of utilising this state of absorption to facilitate inner change, which can positively impact on physical wellbeing and fertility.

How does it work?

Viewing health as more than a physical issue is certainly not a new concept. We know that health is experienced as mental, emotional, spiritual and physical wellbeing. Many cultures throughout the world use a medical model that fully acknowledges the inter-connectedness between these different aspects of our being.

Mind-body medicine is an approach to health that recognises the effect that our mind has on our body, and vice versa. This model views the various aspects of ourselves and the different systems of our body, as a part of the greater whole. This holistic approach acknowledges the effect that one part, or one system, will have on another. It views the human being as a dynamic living ecosystem that strives to maintain all parts in balance, working harmoniously together.

Depression Affects Fertility

Viewing health as more than a physical issue is certainly not a new concept. We know that health is experienced as mental, emotional, spiritual and physical wellbeing. Many cultures throughout the world use a medical model that fully acknowledges the inter-connectedness between these different aspects of our being.

Mind-body medicine is an approach to health that recognises the effect that our mind has on our body, and vice versa. This model views the various aspects of ourselves and the different systems of our body, as a part of the greater whole. This holistic approach acknowledges the effect that one part, or one system, will have on another. It views the human being as a dynamic living ecosystem that strives to maintain all parts in balance, working harmoniously together.

Stress Affects Fertility

In a tribe under threat from another tribe or marauding wild animals, the females would fail to ovulate during this time, similarly if there were a feminine that too would be a bad time to bring a child into the world. – Peter Bowen-Simpkins, M.D Clinical Director, Cromwell IVF Fertility Centre. Introduction: Shape UK March 2001

Beliefs Affect Biology

A Recent study at Harvard Medical School measured what happened when women who were having difficulty conceiving were given group CBT. They were taught how to identify recurrent negative thought patterns and how to separate truth from fear. 55% of the women who participated had a baby. Compared to 20% who received no treatment. (Nicholas, M. ‘3 Steps to Fertility’ pp 113)
Ambivalence About Parenthood

One study showed that in woman without any anatomical reason for infertility, the majority showed severe psychological conflict regarding the wish for parenthood. (Therese Benedek eet al. ‘Some emotional factors in Infertility’ Psychosomatic Medicine Vol 15, no 5. (1953) pp 485-98. Jeker et al ‘Wish for a child and infertility’ International Journal of Fertility, vol 33, no. 6, (1988) pp 411-20)
Hypnosis And IVF

The use of hypnosis during embryo transfer doubles the IVF/ET outcome in terms of increased implantation and clinical pregnancy rates. Furthermore it seems the patients attitude to treatment was more favourable. (‘Impact of hypnosis during embryo transer on the outcome of in vitro fertilization-embryo transfer: a case-control study.’ Fertility and Sterility Journal. May 2006; 8 (5):14040-8)
PMS linked To Decreased Autonomic Nervous System Activity

January 4, 2008 – New research shows that women with premenstrual syndrome (PMS) have significantly decreased autonomic nervous system (ANS) activity and that those with the most severe symptoms might have permanent depression of this key regulatory system.
Research

Stress reduces conception probabilities across the fertile window: evidence in support of relaxation

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